Remember the euphoric feeling you had when you saw that pink + for the first time?
You just knew that you'd be the perfect mom (not like the one you saw in Target with the kid throwing a tantrum over popsicles) You'd walk out of the hospital in pre-pregnancy jeans, only eat organic, still workout 4 days/week, and blissfully love every single moment with you children.
Every.Single.One
Let's debunk 3 myths about motherhood that no one will publically admit.
Myth #1: "Enjoy every minute."
Sometimes, it's not warm and fuzzy. Sometimes it's your kid having a meltdown in Target, the tween/teen years when your child suddenly has 3 heads and zero common sense, or the fights over curfew.
This is your permission slip to dislike the ugly growth. The more real part, that no one likes to mention is the nights of tears over the events of the day. Will you enjoy those moments? Heck no! Your growth as a mother follows the same growth curve as your kiddo.
Myth #2: "Nobody can do it like mom."
Of course, we want our kids to feel safe, loved, encouraged, and adjusted but it's also within the capacity of our tribe to help. Allowing your kids to see how your spouse serves the family or accepts help shows how teamwork makes a bigger impact. (psst it's not your responsibility to take on the burdens of everyone around you)
Myth #3: "Mom runs the show."
Sure this anecdote sounds empowering but it's inaccurate. The true gift is to show our kids that mom isn't in control, God is. Through his protection, provision, and wisdom we have the gift of demonstrating our need for Him in every facet of our lives.
Bottom line:
The messy part of our growth in motherhood is a beautiful place to be. It's my prayer that the women of this community know they are deeply loved and hold a special place in my heart.
Proverbs 31: 10-12
"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her & lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life."